Are You Multi-Tasking Yourself Into More Stress?
By Susie Cortright
http://www.momscape.com
When was the last time you were "in the zone"?
When was the last time you experienced that hypnotic feeling of being so utterly
concentrated that you lost track of the rest of the world?
When was the last time you were completely task-oriented, enveloped in a
self-induced trance, hypnotized by the joy of just doing something - of being
entirely focused on a single task?
It takes a great deal of discipline, but it is possible to cultivate this
awareness - this attention - and to elevate the ordinary to the extraordinary.
This mindfulness is meditation in itself.
When you are able to lavish this kind of singular attention on your kids, you
honor them with the greatest gift in the world. And you unleash enormous focus,
creativity, and energy for yourself.
-->Single-task orientation
We develop this present moment awareness, in part, by ending the multi-tasking
that pervades a typical mom's day.
When we live a life that has us cleaning the fridge while talking on the phone
while baking cookies while toting a toddler, days, weeks, and our children's
birthdays slip by.
Ask yourself: Are you multi-tasking yourself into more stress? When you try to
do too much at once, you raise your stress level, which diminishes your energy
and puts you on the fast track to burnout.
Only mindless tasks should be multi-tasked, and there aren't a lot of mindless
tasks when kids are present. Decide which tasks (and people) deserve your full
attention. Then give it.
As you do so, work on full-sensory awareness. What does your child's hair smell
like? How does she look at you? How does her hand feel in yours? What will you
remember about this moment for years to come?
Think about how much better it is to slow down, to get lost in the moment, to
appreciate every one of our God-given, miraculous moments by creating an
environment of serenity, peace, and pure productivity. A place where there is no
frantic, frenzied rushing but only a singular focus that guides us to the next
task and the next, throughout the day.
Your life is made up of ordinary moments, and it doesn't make sense to rush them
in an attempt to find a bigger, better, more dramatic moment. Joy exists in the
mundane tasks, and learning to immerse yourself in them brings a quiet, powerful
form of energy.
You will learn, gradually, how to savor this "everydayness." Begin now.
Whenever you feel your attention start to shift away from the present, gently
remind yourself to return. Focus on each of your senses in turn. At this very
moment, what do you see, smell, hear, feel, taste?
Start small. Begin practicing mindfulness with a simple routine you do every
day, such as brushing your teeth or making your bed. As you go through the
routine, focus on what your body is feeling at each moment. Once those simple
tasks can hold your full awareness, shift that awareness to the other tasks in
your life.
When you start to feel as though your mind is slipping away from the present,
bring yourself back by asking yourself "what am I doing?" Once again, focus on
the physical sensations the activity produces.
It takes a great deal of discipline (and many, many reminders) to cultivate this
level of awareness and attention, but you'll feel more creative, focused, and
alive if you can master it.
Begin today.
